It’s great to get calls and compliments from people who applaud our small successes online. I often get those calls and yes, it’s good to know that people are able to learn a thing or two from us and what we do.
However, if you thought for one second that we don’t get those hollering, screaming, emotional “you robbed me” calls, then you need to think again.
Considering that I’ve been at this for a little over 2 years, I personally have experienced the challenges of trying to build a brand and presence online while not making any money.
But what most people don’t see is what we had to do behind to scenes to get to where we are today.
Most people think “Oh, your just lucky”, or “You had success overnight, why can’t I?”…..Hmmm……if they only knew!
See, what we have been able to accomplish is something called “consistent results”. It may appear that success and business came over night, but what many may not realize is that we’ve done a consistent amount of activities that have resulted in huge successes!
Let me give you an example:
When I first got started with Internet Marketing, I was broke, lived in an apartment with no furniture, sleeping on an air mattress with our newborn baby sleeping in a pack and play up until she was 18 months old.
I had no money, not many resources but I had a big vision and desire to get out of my circumstances and take control of my life.
So here’s how I did that:
1. I researched online looking for a solution.
After much research, I discovered MailBox Money Systems along with my mentor Tracey Walker who I personally reached out to for guidance.
When I first approached Tracey, I was given steps to implement, and once completed I called her for the next task. But what I didn’t do was put my success in Tracey’s hands and “blame” her for my lack of success if this Internet Marketing thing didn’t work out!
Tracey told me what to do and where to go to “buy” what I needed to get my online presence to the next level.
Although I didn’t have much money, I did have belief and a willingness to invest in me, so I called my dad and he would be my investor into my internet marketing journey.
Whenever there was something I had to buy like an auto-responder, lead capture page software or ebook…I did it, no problem, no harm, no fuss!!………Did I mention I was on welfare during this time and receiving wic………..hhmmmm….the point is, I found a way to get over my “circumstances” and implement elements of change in my life!!
2. I began implementing what I was taught and was excitied when I got results, but I didn’t expect overnight success!
I remember shooting my first youtube video. I was sooooo nervous and scared, but I did it anyway. Did i get tons of hits…nope! But I understood that the first few videos would be simply “exposure” to what the big time marketers do, so I’d follow in their footsteps.
The more youtube videos I created, the more traffic I “generated to my videos”, the more my phones began to ring…so each consistent video was a gateway to where I am today but it all took “TIME”………..over a year to be exact!!!
3. I began to implement other forms of marketing like “my story marketing”, coming up with my bio, putting a myspace page together and trying to find my way in this whole online ordeal.
What I didn’t do was expect to become an overnight success, but knew that it would take a series of consistent activities to get me to become an “expert”, so I was willing to stay in hiding as a student to learn what I could so that I could build my knowledge base up and be able to give something to the internet marketing world that made me worth the money I wanted to earn!! (you may need to read that last paragraph 10 times…..)
4. I remained consistent!!
I spent tons of countless hours and sleepless nights reading, studying, watching webinars, buying ebooks, attending webinars, hanging out in the library…whatever it took, “I WAS WILLING TO DO IT”!!
I clearly understood that in order to make money and become wealthy, you have to attract it to you by establishing a wealthy mindset, so my goal was to become a student of this industry that was willing to experience the grunt work that it takes to climb up the ladder of internet success.
NEVER DID I EXPECT ANYONE TO GIVE ME ANYTHING…..
NEVER DID I BLAME PEOPLE WHEN THEY DIDN’T CALL ME BACK OR PICK UP THE PHONE WHEN I CALLED……..
NEVER DID I QUIT BECAUSE I COULDN’T FIGURE SOMETHING OUT……….
NEVER DID I ALLOW “MONEY” TO BE AN EXCUSE…….
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER DID I PUT MY SUCCESS IN SOMEONE ELSE’S HAND……..
Those who have helped me did just that “helped me”…….but ultimately, success is up to me.
So, now that I shared that, I want to share with you an email that I received from someone today who nearly 3 months ago, showered me with so many compliments that I had to raise a brow a few times…..
Today, those compliments have turned sour because things didn’t quite happen overnight for him, so I got the shower of blame today and thought I’d share it with all of you so you can learn a thing or two about why you will or will not be successful if you choose to blame others for your lack of responsibility over your life!!
Here’s the background…I sent out an email blast to my list this morning asking for those on my list to fill out a survey, and here’s the thread:
Response from email:
Nicole, read your email, your skype..
I have left …. your survey is a few days and about
4 monthly payments, Late..
I am not willing to keep paying and not receiving
valid information that would actually provide some direction..
My Response:
I totally understand…I think you missed what I’m doing but no worries. I’ll remove you from the list!
His Response:
Nicole; I did not miss, what you are doing, for you.
We are all bound by, NEXT..
That’s the Hook!
It all costs….$$$$
An impersonal process, from an impersonal business.
My Response:
Oh (won’t reveal his name)…so sorry if you feel that way. It’s not meant to be that way. I think the challenge you had was that your not in a network marketing business so none of it made sense to you. This is a “training program” in which you are taught how to use the internet to generate leads for your business and how to brand yourself online as an internet “network marketing” expert. I am not in this for “me”. I am a vehicle that guides people to the resources that will help “them/you” “LEARN” what I had to learn to build my business online.
I know your a great man with a challenge of figuring this all out. You came to me to find “something” but this may not be it so please don’t become condescending because this didn’t fit what you were looking for. I believe in valuing relationships, and you were so sweet and complementing me endlessly “before” the frustration, so please note that we all have spent “TONS OF MONEY” on this journey trying to figure it all out and that’s the cost of “learning”….I’m not here to deplete your funds. I’m sharing what has worked for me and many others but here’s what you must consider:
1. we spent “years” learning all this stuff so it can’t be learned in a day
2. this is all “information” designed to “educate” so investing in yourself isn’t a rip off
3. this industry is about discovering a “niche” but if you don’t know why your in it, it’s hard to identify a niche
4. making money online is a “process that requires strategy” but you have to “give” something in order to “get something back” so you have to figure out what you have to offer the world so that they can pay you for it!
I believe you will ultimately find your way, but only when you figure out what your looking for!!!
The reason why I feel the need to share this is because I know many people out there want to blame “someone” for their lack of success. Because you may have found out about a program through someone or bought products from them but may not have known what to do with them…..that doesn’t mean that it’s their fault.
In the industry of Internet Marketing, we are all “resources” that are here to “guide you” to what worked for us. That doesn’t guarantee your success and neither does it place the responsibility of your success in our hands…we are RESOURCES sharing our story and giving guidance on our journey.
I’m very annoyed by the derogatory comments of those who fail and try to discredit what we do. If you don’t believe enough in yourself and the choices “YOU” make, then the mirror is where you should be pushing the blame.
Here’s what you must understand about leaders in this industry:
1. We can not guarantee your success
2. We had to spend money on countless things as well, but it’s all an investment in “yourself”….
3. We are simply here to guide you and can not hold your hand every step of the way…but can guide you to where you can go to find what you need
4. We do have a lot to share, but it’s up to you what you do with it
5. This industry is about learning, investing in your education and application…..that takes time.
6. If you need money now…….get a job, and work on the internet after work….money doesn’t start spewing out your computer cause you say you want to be an internet marketer…it comes when you can “add value” to the lives of others….so until you have reason for people to give you their credit card, find another source of income generation!
7. Your in total control of your life so don’t blame us when things don’t work as planned. I learned a long time ago that our success and our failures are apart of our destiny and theirs always a lesson to learn in them. Therefore, when I went bankrupt, homeless and had to go to the government for help, I blamed no one, instead I sought after the lesson in it all with a vision of using it as a testimony one day.
If you don’t have a vision for yourself, you can’t pay me to create one for you. Vision, Drive and Success starts internally. If you are lacking that, I recommend seeking spiritual counsel….but I’m simply here to empower those with vision, drive and hunger to succeed. If your willing to starve by blaming others, then I’m not the mentor for you…….
I had to get that off my chest for those who misunderstand what our role and purpose is in this industry. Now that we’ve laid out the description…It is my desire that you shift down the road of taking full responsibility of your journey so that you can succeed!!
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